Theme: "Cat's in the Cradle" By: Harry Chapin
Quote: "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, and that's why I call you dad, because you are so special to me. You taught me the game and you taught me how to play it right." -Wade Boggs
The definition of Father is: A man in relation to his child or children.
Basically, a man that has kids. It doesn't need to be biological, nor in close proximity. You are a father if you are a man and have at least one child.
Father, to me; is an authoritative male figure. Someone who is to be given respect, honor, and whose counsel is to be taken under careful consideration.
I find it strange that Father’s Day seems of less importance to the world as Mother’s Day. Maybe because moms bring us into the world, or perhaps because statistically speaking many children are raised by a female and do not always have a male figure present.
My theory, however, runs deeper into the grammar of it. Father is a title. When we say Mother and Mom, we see littler difference, but now say Father and Dad. For one thing they start with different letters.
There was a saying, anyone can be father, but only special people can be a daddy. Dad is the more personal and intimate name. It symbolizes closeness and a bond.
It’s great that our culture values the mothers in our lives. We must! Likewise, we should also value the fathers, because it is by the honor and respect, we give a father, that helps equip him to be a daddy.
In a world telling men they are ‘too manly’, ‘not manly enough’, ‘hair too long’, ‘hair too short’, ‘not serving/providing for their families properly’ or countless other burdens laid on their shoulders.
Fathers need to be reminded; that more than the money they earn, or hours they work. Their presence, their love and stories are irreplaceable treasures.
Everyone carries burdens, and recognizing the weight, expectations and anxiety that every man carries can make all the difference.
So many statistics show the incredible ramifications of not having a positive male role model in a child's life. Our fathers are not perfect, but they try. We as a society have a choice to make. Continue as we are, showing minimal respect to the fathers, just acknowledging love of cars and tools, or we can allow men of all types; poets, artists, chefs, architects, mechanics, figure skaters, singers and so much more to be themselves. To feel supported and loved by their family. Honor is a need every man has, so as you show your dad love, also give them a sense of how much you honor and respect them.
This Dear Fathers, is for you.
Oh, my dad, Father who raised me,
It’s because of you, that now I see.
You guided and protected.
And with discipline corrected.
Yet still you were there.
Struggling to share.
Leading as best you could.
Modeling what you thought you should.
And when burdens that you carried threatened to crush.
You continued on, forcing yourself to hush.
To silence these fears, doubts and pain.
Worried you might not make it home again.
Uncertainty was consumed by love.
As you modeled the Father above.
Even then all you would request,
Was an open ear, and heart at your behest.
I see now the tears you dared not shed,
And the longing that was left unfed.
How much was your pain?
The suffering and bloody stain?
The burden you carried alone,
Not giving a whimper or even a moan.
You are a mighty, superman.
But now it’s time to rest within.
Your family is here, we are you shelter.
Rest in us and you will not falter.
We are one, a unit ready for war.
United on the battlefield, and ready for more!
So, come now my father, and dear daddy.
Let us reside together, breathe, and allowed to just be.
Happy Father’s Day!
You are warriors, heroes, soldiers, and burden carrying teachers.
We know you carry so much, but you don’t have to carry it alone. With other admirable men, and with your family, unite. Stand and fight. Together we will overcome. Together, as one.